
Glossary
Glossary of Terms
A
Abolitionist - Often a "feminist" who believes that prostitution is inherently exploitative, violent and akin to slavery. These people are often described as anti-sex, prohibitionist feminists and/or anti-sex workers' rights feminists, and are focused on the abolition of sex work rather than the promotion of human and labour rights of sex workers.
Anal play – Any sexual play with the anus including toys or anal sex
Anal sex – Penetration of the anus
ATM – Ass To Mouth
Anal Training – Working to slowly stretch the anal cavity to allow for bigger toys. This typically has the end goal of pegging.
B
BJ – Blow Job
BBBJ – Bare Back Blow Job, blow job without protection
BBBJTC - Bare Back Blow Job To Completion
BBW – Big Beautiful Woman
BLS – Balls Lick and Suck
B & D – Bondage and Discipline
BDSM – Body Domination and Sadomasochism
Bondage – Restraining or tying up one partner
Brazilian – Waxing of the public area to remove all hair
C
CBT – Cock and Ball Torture
CD – Cross Dressing
CIM – Cum in Mouth
CIMWS – Cum In Mouth With Swallow
Cisgender (Cis) – The description of a person who identifies with the sex they were assigned at birth
CBJ – Covered Blow Job
COB – Cum on Body
COF – Cum on Face
Cougar – A mature woman typically seeking a younger man
D
DATY – ‘Dining at the Y’ oral sex on a woman
DATO – ‘Dining at the Orifice’ oral sex on someone’s anus
DFK – Deep French Kissing
Dirty talk – The use of creative language during intercourse
DP – Double Penetration
DDP – Double Digit Penetration, one finger in the vagina, one in the anus
DT – Deep Throat
Doggy style – A sexual position where one individual penetrates the another from behind
Dominas - a Latin word which means 'Mistress'
F
FtM (F2M) – Female to Male, a description of a trans* person’s gender
Facial – The act of climaxing on a person’s face
Face Sitting – The submissive's face is sat on by the Dom(me) to exercise a form of breath and scent play (can be clothed or unclothed) that also emphasizes tease and denial as well as humiliation.
FE – Female Ejaculation
Feminine/Masculine Presenting – A way to describe someone without using specifically gendered language
Femme – Typically describes a very feminine presenting queer person
Fire and ice – Giving oral sex while switching between something hot and something cold
Fisting – Penetration of the anus or the vagina with a fist
FK – French Kissing
French – Oral Sex
FS – Full Service, usually including penetrative sex
FT – Full Toilet
FTT – Full Toilet Training
G
GFE aka Girlfriend Experience - sex workers provide an experience which is similar to having a girlfriend.
Genderfluid – The gender identity of people who’s relationship to gender changes from time to time
Genderqueer – A gender identity outside of the male/female binary
Greek – Anal Sex
GS or ‘Golden Shower’ - typically means watching an individual urinate or having them urinate on someone
H
Happy ending – Typically a massage that ends with a hand job
HJ – Hand Job
Hustling - to work hard
I
Italian – Rubbing the penis between the buttocks
Intersex – Term for someone who has an atypical biological sex
J
John – A client
L
LK – Light Kissing
LGBTIQA+ – Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Intersex Queer Asexual +
M
MtF (M2F) – Male to Female, a description of a trans person’s gender
MILF – Mother I’d Like to Fuck
MFF – Male Female Female
MMF – Male Male Female
Monogamy - the practice of only having one sexual partner
Mutual masturbation – Two individuals masturbating together
Mutual French – Both individuals give and receive oral sex
Mutual natural French – Both individuals give and receive oral sex without protection
MSOG – Multiple Shots on Goal, meaning a sex worker is able to give the client multiple orgasms
Mx – The title of a non-binary person (as opposed to Mr or Ms)
N
Natural bush – Unshaved or substantial pubic hair
Non-monogamy - an intimate sexual/emotional relationship involving more than two people.
Non-binary – A spectrum of gender identities outside the male/female binary
O
Open relationship - Also known as a non exclusive relationship, is a form of non-monogamy
OWO – Oral With Out, a blow job without a condom
P
Pansexual – Someone attracted to all gender identities
Pegging – The act of a Female person using a strap on and dildo to engage in topping the submissive
PNDP – Please No Dick Pics
PSE aka Porn Star Experience - typically a sexual experience inspired by common pornography
Punter – A client
Q
Queer – Someone who is not strictly heterosexual
R
Role play – Individuals engaging in sexual activity while acting
Rimming – orally gratifying someone’s anus
S
SAAB – Sex Assigned At Birth
Snowballing – Passing semen from one person’s mouth to another
Spanish – Rubbing the penis between breasts
Spit roasting – Giving oral sex to one individual while being penetrated from behind by another
Squirting – Female ejaculation during orgasm
Strap on – A dildo designed to ’straps on’ to a person
Strip tease – An erotic dance that involves taking clothes off
Sugaring (Sugar baby/Sugar daddy) - A relationship in which one party (often the male) financially supports the other party in exchange for companionship and often sexual intimacy.
SW – Sex Worker/s
T
Tea bagging – Placing the scrotum into/onto the mouth or face
Toy show – A masturbation toy show ie dildos, vibrators
Transgender - A gender description of a person who is going through or has completed a gender transition
Trans– An umbrella term covering identities that transgress binary gender norms
Tromboning - A sexual act that involves giving someone’s anus oral sex while masturbating their penis
TTM – Testicular Tongue Massage
W
Water sports – Sexual acts that involve urine
Whorearchy - An unfortunate class system within the sex industry which perpetuates lateral violence
Whorephobia - A form of violence directed towards sex workers aiming to perpetuate stigma in order to control and police women's bodies
For Sex Workers Only
Prostitute - this is a term used to criminalize our work and perpetuate harmful stereotypes. Those who oppose the consensual selling and buying of sexual services between adults with use this term because of its negative connotations and implies sex workers cannot be empowered or autonomous beings
Hooker/Whore/Harlot - are misogynistic slurs to describe someone who is promiscuous and degrade women's sexuality
Hoe/Heaux - these terms should only be used by Black sex workers as they are a part of African American vernacular
Thot - this term should only be used by Black sex workers as it is a part of African American vernacular
Working girls, girls, call girls - while these are not slur's in the same way Whore and Hooker are, using the term "girls" when describing sex workers fails to acknowledge the gender diversity of the sex industry, while also infantilizing the experiences of adult women. This also acts and an emotional trigger that plays into the stereotype of young girls in prostitution.
It is My hope that you take these terms into serious consideration while working and exploring in this industry.