Education | Divine Violence by Monique de Sade

Glossary of Terms

Abolitionist - Often a "feminist" who believes that prostitution is inherently exploitative, violent and akin to slavery. These people are often described as anti-sex, prohibitionist feminists and/or anti-sex workers' rights feminists, and are focused on the abolition of sex work rather than the promotion of human and labour rights of sex workers.

Anal play – Any sexual play with the anus including toys or anal sex

Anal sex – Penetration of the anus

ATM – Ass To Mouth

Anal Training – Working to slowly stretch the anal cavity to allow for bigger toys. This typically has the end goal of pegging.

BJ – Blow Job

BBBJ – Bare Back Blow Job, blow job without protection

BBBJTC - Bare Back Blow Job To Completion

BBW – Big Beautiful Woman

BLS – Balls Lick and Suck

B & D – Bondage and Discipline

BDSM – Body Domination and Sadomasochism

Bondage – Restraining or tying up one partner

Brazilian – Waxing of the public area to remove all hair

CBT – Cock and Ball Torture

CD – Cross Dressing

CIM – Cum in Mouth

CIMWS – Cum In Mouth With Swallow

Cisgender (Cis) – The description of a person who identifies with the sex they were assigned at birth

CBJ – Covered Blow Job

COB – Cum on Body

COF – Cum on Face

Cougar – A mature woman typically seeking a younger man

DATY – ‘Dining at the Y’ oral sex on a woman

DATO – ‘Dining at the Orifice’ oral sex on someone’s anus

DFK – Deep French Kissing

Dirty talk – The use of creative language during intercourse

DP – Double Penetration

DDP – Double Digit Penetration, one finger in the vagina, one in the anus

DT – Deep Throat

Doggy style – A sexual position where one individual penetrates the another from behind

Dominas - a Latin word which means 'Mistress'

FtM (F2M) – Female to Male, a description of a trans* person’s gender

Facial – The act of climaxing on a person’s face

Face Sitting – The submissive's face is sat on by the Dom(me) to exercise a form of breath and scent play (can be clothed or unclothed) that also emphasizes tease and denial as well as humiliation.

FE – Female Ejaculation

Feminine/Masculine Presenting – A way to describe someone without using specifically gendered language

Femme – Typically describes a very feminine presenting queer person

Fire and ice – Giving oral sex while switching between something hot and something cold

Fisting – Penetration of the anus or the vagina with a fist

FK – French Kissing

French – Oral Sex

FS – Full Service, usually including penetrative sex

FT – Full Toilet

FTT – Full Toilet Training

GFE aka Girlfriend Experience - sex workers provide an experience which is similar to having a girlfriend.

Genderfluid – The gender identity of people who’s relationship to gender changes from time to time

Genderqueer – A gender identity outside of the male/female binary

Greek – Anal Sex

GS or ‘Golden Shower’ - typically means watching an individual urinate or having them urinate on someone

Happy ending – Typically a massage that ends with a hand job

HJ – Hand Job

Hustling - to work hard

Italian – Rubbing the penis between the buttocks

Intersex – Term for someone who has an atypical biological sex

John – A client

LK – Light Kissing

LGBTIQA+ – Lesbian Gay Bisexual Trans Intersex Queer Asexual +

MtF (M2F) – Male to Female, a description of a trans person’s gender

MILF – Mother I’d Like to Fuck

MFF – Male Female Female

MMF – Male Male Female

Monogamy - the practice of only having one sexual partner

Mutual masturbation – Two individuals masturbating together

Mutual French – Both individuals give and receive oral sex

Mutual natural French – Both individuals give and receive oral sex without protection

MSOG – Multiple Shots on Goal, meaning a sex worker is able to give the client multiple orgasms

Mx – The title of a non-binary person (as opposed to Mr or Ms)

Natural bush – Unshaved or substantial pubic hair

Non-monogamy - an intimate sexual/emotional relationship involving more than two people.

Non-binary – A spectrum of gender identities outside the male/female binary

Open relationship - Also known as a non exclusive relationship, is a form of non-monogamy

OWO – Oral With Out, a blow job without a condom

Pansexual – Someone attracted to all gender identities

Pegging – The act of a Female person using a strap on and dildo to engage in topping the submissive

PNDP – Please No Dick Pics

PSE aka Porn Star Experience - typically a sexual experience inspired by common pornography

Punter – A client

Queer – Someone who is not strictly heterosexual

Role play – Individuals engaging in sexual activity while acting

Rimming – orally gratifying someone’s anus

SAAB – Sex Assigned At Birth

Snowballing – Passing semen from one person’s mouth to another

Spanish – Rubbing the penis between breasts

Spit roasting – Giving oral sex to one individual while being penetrated from behind by another

Squirting – Female ejaculation during orgasm

Strap on – A dildo designed to ’straps on’ to a person

Strip tease – An erotic dance that involves taking clothes off

Sugaring (Sugar baby/Sugar daddy) - A relationship in which one party (often the male) financially supports the other party in exchange for companionship and often sexual intimacy.

SW – Sex Worker/s

Tea bagging – Placing the scrotum into/onto the mouth or face

Toy show – A masturbation toy show ie dildos, vibrators

Transgender - A gender description of a person who is going through or has completed a gender transition

Trans– An umbrella term covering identities that transgress binary gender norms

Tromboning - A sexual act that involves giving someone’s anus oral sex while masturbating their penis

TTM – Testicular Tongue Massage

Water sports – Sexual acts that involve urine

Whorearchy - An unfortunate class system within the sex industry which perpetuates lateral violence

Whorephobia - A form of violence directed towards sex workers aiming to perpetuate stigma in order to control and police women's bodies

For Sex Workers Only

Prostitute - this is a term used to criminalize our work and perpetuate harmful stereotypes. Those who oppose the consensual selling and buying of sexual services between adults with use this term because of its negative connotations and implies sex workers cannot be empowered or autonomous beings

Hooker/Whore/Harlot - are misogynistic slurs to describe someone who is promiscuous and degrade women's sexuality

Hoe/Heaux - these terms should only be used by Black sex workers as they are a part of African American vernacular

Thot - this term should only be used by Black sex workers as it is a part of African American vernacular

Working girls, girls, call girls - while these are not slur's in the same way Whore and Hooker are, using the term "girls" when describing sex workers fails to acknowledge the gender diversity of the sex industry, while also infantilizing the experiences of adult women. This also acts and an emotional trigger that plays into the stereotype of young girls in prostitution.

It is My hope that you take these terms into serious consideration while working and exploring in this industry.